BECOMING A PARENT is the most life-altering experience you will ever have.
Once you bring a child into the world there are no take-backs or do-overs.
However, you have something essential to help you through this time: Your Partner.
Here are 5 foolproof tips for helping your relationship survive childbirth and the years of parenting that follow!
It’s easy to get wrapped up in your own head, your own needs and your own feelings when you’re a new parent.
While we don’t intend to, new moms and dads often get so caught up in just the basic act of keeping this new tiny human alive that we forget to connect with our partner.
Complimenting each other is an excellent way to stay connected.
Even if you feel frustrated, even if the compliment is a simple one, it will do wonders towards bolstering your companion (and you in the process).
Here are some very easy examples to start:
- Thank them for a small act of kindness. Even if it’s changing a diaper or handing you a baby wipe, saying “thank you” shows you appreciate them and reminds you that you’re not alone.
- When you feel frustrated with your partner, pick something you like about them and point it out. I know this one can be hard when you’re upset. But, it’s important to remind yourself that they and their feelings matter.
- “I like your [Fill In The Blank]”, “I like how you [Fill In The Blank]”, “It’s nice when you [Fill In The Blank]”. Just say something nice about your partner. Something. Anything. It will matter.
A romantic partnership is the foundation of a stable loving family.
You need to make your relationship a priority.
Try to let go of any guilt you may be feeling in taking some time away from your child.
So long as your child’s basic needs are being met, there is nothing wrong with getting a responsible sitter and taking a night off with you partner.
Make sure you schedule time with your partner.
It’s incredible how fast time flies when you’re not paying attention.
One day you’ll look up and realize you haven’t had a date night in months.
Taking that time without kids to reconnect with your parent, talk about life, dreams, goals or just shooting the breeze and just getting a breath of fresh air will help you stay connected and help reduce the stress that comes with being a parent.
Sure, it’s helpful to have other people to connect with.
Supportive family and friends are necessary for a new parent.
But, at the end of the day, your partner is the one you are raising this child with.
You are on the same team and it’s important to remind each other that you are on the same side.
Be each other’s sounding board.
Pay attention to what’s happening with your partner.
Being aware of where your partner is at will help you support them.
It’s okay to disagree so long as you have open, healthy discussion.
Just make sure you always have each others’ back.
So often adults misconstrue “physical intimacy” as “sex”.
Yes, sex is a way to be intimate with your partner.
But, it’s not the only way.
Non-sexual physical touch is important.
It strengthens your connection, brings comfort, shows desire and enhances your sense of belonging.
Here are some easy, non-sexual ways to show intimacy:
- A hug
- Holding hands
- Playing with your partner’s hair
- Rest your hand on their leg
- A shoulder rub
- Leaning your head on your partner’s shoulder
- Putting your arm around them
5. Good Enough
From the moment a woman is pregnant she is bombarded with society’s view of what a mother “should be.”
It can lead a woman to feel that she is constantly failing.
You aren’t failing.
Chances are, if you are wondering if you are a good mother, you are a good mother.
You don’t have to be the “Perfect Mother”. She doesn’t even exist!
Trust in yourself and recognize that you are good enough.
Feel good about your choices and yourself.
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